There are many aspects of motherhood that bring us joy, peace, and times of fulfillment; but then again, we also may experience moments of crisis, difficulties, and tension within our daily lives as mothers.
However; being a Christian single-mom who is attempting to raise and nurture your children in the Lord, based on biblical principles can be quite a frustrating and challenging task when applying it within your own home.
This is what I am attempting to bring to you as a seasoned, mature, Christian single-mom, who has had many years of this kind of experience and background, as I have tried to serve the Lord diligently in every way while raising up my own young daughter into being the lovely Christian woman she is today. I thank the Lord for all He has given to me in giving me spiritual resources and wonderful guidance from other Christian people in my life who have helped me along the way.
As you know, there can be many difficulties within your home when you are trying to raise your kids up without a father there. Perhaps he may be in their lives to some degree, but not always present. Or, he may not be present in the lives of your children at all. It can be a tough haul. I too have been a single-mom, and for many years now; not by choice but by circumstance.
In the past, many people have come to my aid in helping me with my daughter, such as my parents, grandparents, friends, co-workers, other family members, psychologists, and yes, even my daughter’s father; however, nothing truly surpasses the help from our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ!
The Bible talks about how He is always there for us, and for every need we may have. Psalm 46:1 says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” Psalm 54:4 reminds us, “Behold, God is mine helper: The LORD is with them that uphold my soul.” Isaiah 41:10 tells us, “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed: for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of My righteousness.” And lastly, we see this again in Hebrews 4:16, where it states, “Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.”
Why Do You Need Help As A Christian Single-Mom?
Well, here’s why I feel you may benefit from this information and why you may need help as a Christian single-mom:
- Learning Christian values, biblical teachings and principles will help your children stand up and be bold against Satan’s evil influences, whether they are coming from home, school, church, or play.
- You will learn how to allow the leading of the Holy Spirit to penetrate and guide every area of your life.
- You will learn how to trust in God to supply your every need and not worry so much about everything. This blog will give you the necessary tools to achieve this.
- You will begin to see that even asking God to take care of the smallest things in your life gives you a sense of peace, security, and fulfillment.
- You will learn and understand God’s Word so much more as you are exposed to it and study it on a daily basis. You will be encouraged to memorize Scripture as a helpful pattern in life, and in making it your suit of armor in defeating the devil and the world’s system.
- As a Christian single-mother, God knows how much you are hurting, suffering, and struggling on a daily basis as you attempt to keep a roof over your family’s head, food on the table, clothing on their backs, and a Christian home to be safe and secure in. God wants to help you in all these things. All you have to do is ask Him and He will help you. Finally,
- You will find out how to get help, support, and aid from other Christian single-moms who are walking in the same shoes you are in. You can do this by setting up your own support group; looking to your local church for support from pastors, teachers, or others going through some of the same issues as you are, or by searching out various topics on the internet as you need them, such as the help you might find within this particular blog.
Throughout the pages of this Christian blog, www.singlemomsforchristianliving.com, I would like to present you with helpful information, along with some personal history and research on various topics of interest to you on how to live as a single-mother in a Christ-centered home; how to raise your children up to be godly sons and daughters for God’s kingdom–for His plan and purpose in their lives. Here are just a few topics that may be of interest and concern to you that I’ll write about. If you have any other topic suggestions for me to write on or research, please let me know in the comments below and I will be happy to do so. Categories of Interest are:
- Christian Home Life
- Christian and Family Education
- Christian Motherhood
- Your Young Children And Teenagers
- Your Adult Children
- Christian Ministries
- Christian Family Health,Fitness,Wellness
- Your Relationships
- Your Job/Work/Career
- Family Time Together
- Spiritual Living
- Difficult Issues
- Government Resources For Single-Mothers
- Christian Resources For Single-Mothers
I realize that’s a lot to tackle in one blog! I could probably create a blog for each subject listed above. However, I want to create a One-Stop-Resource for every Christian single-mother out there. I will do my best to fulfill this vision in helping you through the many tasks and challenges of raising your children through biblical standards and godly principles as you seek to live a victorious, spiritual life among those in your Christ-centered home.
Single-Moms Have Unique Circumstances
Many mothers out there are single due to various reasons. Perhaps you are divorced (or going through a divorce), widowed, or for child, domestic, and/or spousal abuse. Maybe you just wanted to be single by choice, or perhaps separated from your spouse because of adultery, etc. Regardless of the case, I do not judge you, dear friend.
Your Heavenly Father knows about your situation, circumstance, and your need. As a matter of fact, we are reminded of this in Philippians 4:19, that says, “But my God shall supply ALL your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” Furthermore, it also says in God’s Word from Proverbs 18:24 that, “…There is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” Truly, this gives us reason to rejoice always!
Some of these unique challenges and circumstances we Christian single-moms are faced with and go through are the following. Possibly you will find yourself in a few of these instances:
- Experiencing feelings of frustration, sadness, hopelessness, anger, rage, jealousy, and/or isolation from everyone who may not seem to care or understand what you’re going through as a single parent.
- Going through grief or sadness due to the loss of a spouse, or a boyfriend through death (being widowed), a tough breakup, or a divorce.
- Difficulty in understanding or managing your finances, creating a budget, or learning how to spend and save your money in a wise manner.
- Needing help with your kids’ homework, bad behaviors, chores around the house, disciplining when needed, another adult around for support, or a father figure for your kids if none is around.
- Getting government help (grants, vouchers, WIC, welfare, etc.) if needed for housing, food, transportation, or help for a special needs child, etc.
- Getting child or spousal support if it’s been awarded to you, or getting help in that direction.
- Getting help or knowing who and where to turn to for home repairs, car repairs, or other projects around or outside your home that need repairs or upkeep.
- Helping and supporting your children if they are going through abuse at school/harassment or bullying.
- Dealing with various other difficult issues within your home, such as teenage pregnancies, drug or alcohol abuse, STD’s, homosexuality and/or transgender issues, bullying, social pressures from school, church, or the workplace. On and on it goes!
You may think or say that there are many married couples who have children going through many of these same issues. This is very true. So, why am I singling them out? (no pun intended here). It’s just that single-moms tend to become more overwhelmed with these problems and situations because they are virtually on their own while doing them.
Sometimes they feel isolated a lot and don’t want to bother people or ask others for help, even though they may so desperately need it. I know about this too. I experienced this in my own life as a Christian single-mom. Even though I had a Christian family and could go to them for help on occasion; I wanted to be self-reliant and do things on my own, as a way to teach my daughter to fend for herself if she needed to as well. Later on, however, I felt I was doing it more so out of pride than of necessity. But, God has shown me many times of where I needed to trust Him more and quit trying to be Super-Woman by fending for myself. I needed to look to the Lord for help, and practice what I preach, instead of thinking or believing I could do everything on my own without Him.
A Charge And Challenge For All Christian Single-Moms
When you think about what your responsibilities are as a parent, you may think that your job is to raise and develop good, useful citizens in the country where you live; to teach them all the necessary things to basically live a good life; to get them into good schools so they might have good jobs, making good money, get married, and have a wonderful family of their very own. We may feel that teaching them skills of self-reliance is also helpful, and to give them all the wonderful help and advice along the way as they need it. It is true that these things in and of themselves are helpful and needful within our society and within our families.
However, as a Christian parent, much more is required. As a matter of fact, we are CHARGED from the Lord to do this His way, as with the raising up of sons and daughters for His kingdom. We are charged with the privilege and opportunity to point to, lead, and win our children to Christ through His divine love and salvation. We are charged with teaching them biblical truths that are directed and given to us by God. We are their earthly parents who are responsible for their physical and spiritual welfare, and yet, the Lord has made it clear in His Word how we are to go about it all. Consider these important passages of scripture as you contemplate your role in your child’s life and he/she in your’s.
- Proverbs 4:1-13 says, “Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding. For I give you good doctrine, forsake ye not My law. For I was my father’s son, tender and only beloved in the sight of my mother. He taught me also and said unto me,’ Let thine heart retain My words; Keep My commandments and live. Get wisdom; get understanding; Forget it not, neither decline from the words of My mouth. Forsake her not, and she shall preserve thee; love her and she shall keep thee. Wisdom is the principle thing; therefore, get wisdom: and with all thy getting, get understanding. Exalt her, and she shall promote thee: she shall bring thee to honor, when thou dost embrace her. She shall give to thine head an ornament of grace: a crown of glory shall she deliver to thee. Hear, O My son, and receive My sayings; and the years of thy life shall be many. I have taught thee in the way of wisdom; I have led thee in right paths. When thou goest thy steps shall not be straitened; and when thou runnest, thou shalt not stumble. Take fast of instruction; let her not go; keep her; for she is thy life.”
- Colossians 3:20-21 tells us, “Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children, lest they be discouraged.“
- 1 Timothy 4:7-8 says, “But refuse profane and old wives fables, and exercise thyself rather unto godliness. For bodily exercise profiteth little: but godliness is profitable to all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come.“
- 2 Timothy 3:16-17 tells us, “All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.”
- Ephesians 6:4 instructs, “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” And finally,
- Proverbs 22:6 reminds us to, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.“
Then, there is the CHALLENGE of working, studying, and learning about how to keep your children and your home from many of those evil elements out there in the world today. Things such as how to deal with, act or react to situations like: bullying in school or work, temptations of drug and alcohol use and abuse, neglecting schoolwork, bad attitude and behaviors, bitterness, jealousies, teenage pregnancies, addictions, and so on.
Your children need spiritual help also. You see, a child’s life extends out from home, to church, to school, and to the playground. They need spiritual help in every area of their young lives, just as their mother does. And so, I believe that when our children have sufficient Christian values in place, they are then able to handle the many problems and situations within their various daily activities. Also, they are apt to be nicer to their siblings too.
In many ways our children are an extension of us. They take on our values, habits, patterns, actions, thinking, and our way of communicating to others.
They tend to look up to us as their heroes, and for their very identities. So, in essence, I feel that it is up to us, as their mothers, although single ones, to lead them into the right spiritual path in which to grow and develop into the future Christian disciples that God would have them to be.
Many of these challenges come as trials as well as temptations to various things of life. We will discuss these important family issues and many many more. Please, feel free to comment below and let me know of difficult issues you are going through as a Christian single-mom and I will be happy to tackle as many as possible.
Hopefully, as you explore this blog, you will find all sorts of useful and informative information in helping you create a happy Christ-centered home for you and your family.
I look forward to serving you in this way and trust and pray that through my own words and experiences, you may feel more calm and free as you enjoy life with your children while living as a Christian single-mom. God Bless You!